Why is Boredom a good thing?

In many ways, the advancement of technology is a positive thing and is enabling people to do more – but is technology, and social media in particular, actually standing in the way of us fulfilling our potential?

In this article you will learn:

  • The impact of using technology and social media
  • Why we need to be bored
  • The importance of disconnecting

While no-one would ever say that technology or social media is a totally bad thing, more and more studies are being done that are starting to reveal the harm that they are causing in society. And with young people the most likely to engage in these activities, there is a possibility that they could have an effect on how successful they are in future. Here’s three ways that social media is impacting young people’s ability to achieve.

1. They are losing the art of conversation

Gone are the days that people picked up the phone to speak to their friends to find out what is going on in their lives. Now we know in real time exactly what our friends are doing, thanks to their Facebook status updates, Instagram stories and tweets. But are young people losing the ability to hold a conversation?

According to one high school English teacher, yes. “My students don’t know how to have a conversation,” Paul Barnwell. He set his students a task that required them to hold a conversation – to record a podcast discussing education issues.

“Even with plenty of practice, the task proved daunting to students,” he says. “I watched trial runs of their podcasts frequently fall silent. Unless the student facilitator asked a question, most kids were unable to converse effectively.”

But, as Barnwell points out, college and job interviews cannot be conducted via a smartphone, negotiations and discussions in the workplace need to be carried out with a thoughtful presence and demonstrating their ability to think on their feet – something that Barnwell’s junior English class (and, arguably, many others of the same generation) would struggle with.

Read: Why we need to switch off to achieve more

2. They are losing the beauty of boredom

Many parents know the dreaded feeling when their child utters those words: “I’m bored.” Handing over the tablet or smartphone for another few minutes peace is the easy option and keeps their child entertained.

But, Dr Vanessa Lapointe thinks that we should allow children to be bored more often. She says: “Children need to sit in their own boredom for the world to become quiet enough that they can hear themselves. It is only when we are surrounded by nothing that something comes alive on the inside.”

She adds: “Children need to sit in the nothingness of boredom in order to arrive at an understanding of who they are.”

Dr Lapointe challenges parents to let their children be bored “and then watch. Watch as your child’s mind becomes quiet. Watch as their internal sense of self takes over. Watch as their sense of being comes bubbling out of them and spills over into this incredible energy to create and do and conquer. And then watch as they grow into confident, capable, driven young people.”

3. They are losing the ability to do deep thinking

Research psychologist Max Blumberg thinks that being constantly connected is reducing young people’s ability to think about things on a deeper level.

He says: “The end result of all this, I think, is that you will become very reactive. You won’t be able to do deep thinking and you won’t see things being built anymore. To build a really cool company, like Virgin for example, Richard Branson needed a lot of deep thinking and a lot of focus, which he couldn’t have got if he had been always connected.”

He adds: “We’re already starting to see that the kids from richer backgrounds are really restricted in the amount of TV and internet that they are allowed to use because their parents who built these big companies know that that is what is required to be able to achieve such things, so those kids are going to end up building the big companies of the future.

“And the kids from poorer backgrounds, who are online all the time and have a very reactive brain, will end up being the consumers and customers of the other kids’ companies. There will be a huge market where people will buy anything because the brand is flashed up without having any critical thinking about it because their brains are not used to deep thinking.”

Sex does not imply True Love. .

SEX
A man can travel for eight hours ‘just to have sex with a female friend and yet, not love her.
Sex makes men act as if they are in love.
The eight hours travel sacrifice, gifts bought, hotel paid for and other expenses may seem to be coming from true love but they were all in the sacrifice for sex and nothing more.
The foolish thing is this, majority of women would jump up inside them and conclude that this is art of true love. Sex is not an art of commitment. Men still leave the women they sleep with on bed and start thinking of the next woman to sleep with. The satisfaction that
comes from sex dies in minutes.
It is in the nature of Lions to go miles to hunt. The same with men. A man who can afford the expenses of flying from UK to Nigeria for sex would do it as if he would never turn to another woman for sex.
Sex drives men to do what seems like the
impossible and such turns women around and they start acting weird. Sex and love are not in the same page even in dictionary.
People can abandon their gold mines and dig the grave for sex. Most young men do terrible things just to have the resources to keep many girls in their life. You may think they are working hard to live well in the future but they are just living for
fun and that is all. Students are now living
together like husbands and wives, and our
society calls it love. What kind of people do these students become when they leave school?
This is why we have a lot of frustrated graduates than nation building graduates.
Today, a 16 year old girl is already into sex. She wants to wear everything on trend. She is already a prostitute in the sense that any man
that comes her way for relationship must show some signs of money and she would respond to him.
The funny thing is this, almost all those girls that have become sex symbols end up in deep mess. How many of them today is changing the world they are into? What kind of spirit would they do well with in life? They have sold their souls out
to sex. They pride on what they wear and hotels they go to. That is their biggest achievement. The girls they called cowards are setting up economic empires. Their future is already exhausted when they come to their true senses?

Advice to my beloved brothers and sisters:
For men; never allow your erection today to destroy your future directions, stay positive.
My sisters, all that glitters is not gold, make your future bright and its start today.

Choose Purpose over Popular

In life eventually every person has his or her purpose for existing, we all know what our hearts desires, our passion, gifts and talents from God and those are the things that determine our purpose, they say there are two great days in a persons life

1. The day we are born 2. The day we find out why??

Most of us are born and very few of us really know why, so we go for the things that will give us fame and become popular in a short time which may not even be our purpose on earth or even Gods plan for you and your life, They say direction is better than speed, ,when you have a direction of where you are going it means you aleady know your purpose and are pursuing it knowing it will lead you in the right way to your destiny, in todays life alot of people dont choose purpose over being popular so they get distorted on they way, they dont reach their destiny and blame God saying that he did not favour them, its time we get to know our purpose first why were we born and put to earth at first, search the inner you, explore what is missing or what is there that you are taking it forgranted, our hearts tell us to do things and we ignore them most of the times and listen to our brains without knowing that as soon as we were born our hearts started beating and feeling things before even our brains starte dfuntioning. . so why should you listen to your brain more than your heart? why should you criticise yourself? why dont we follow our intuitions? i know it may not seem right at the moment, you may feeel like you are going crazy everytym you want to follow your heart like what will my familly think of me? how about my friends and loved ones? so you remain in your comfortzones staying unhappy, you have to know this is your life to live and you will live it only ones,so you might as well fill it with Happiness and greatness or Die together with your dreams and heart desires. .the choice is yours, ask yourself today if you were in your death bed now, you are told you will be dead in two months wht will you do to change the situation you have now? How would you like to leave this world? Are you feeling defeated in your current life? thats how you want to leave or you want to leave as a winner? Die while smilling you lived your life. . The choice is yours now my dears, i believe God will give you the courage to pursue your purpose in life if you let him and you will do it.

Dont know how i feel

Have you ever felt like you need someone to hold you down at the same time you feel like you just want to keep on feeling misereable because you feel at the moment you just want to stay misereable because you need to find yourself and know what you really want, that feeling of nothing is really wrong but nothing feels right either all your feelings are chaos you juc don know what to decide and you juc feel down, you need help but dont need help either so you are just there like a robot feeling all sorts of things and everything just runs through your head and it just doest make sense at ol, you want to do this bt doesnt feel right you want to do that but doesnt feel right so you are juc there stuck and wondering what the outcome will be. .

Its really hard to stay motivated, there are juc days you don know how you feel about anything in your life, you feel stuck and going nowhere you feel ol your efforts are being un appreciated by people or yourself, you feel lost somewhere dark in a room of yourself. .these are the days which i always believe my breaktrough is about to come. .my victory is arround the corner, i can quit and be a looser or fight more and be the winner, its a choice someone has to make a very hard choice, when you feeling like everything is falling apart thats when actually things are getting together in place and everthing you ever wanted is about to come through so dont give up for nothing is permanent in this world even your sorrows, so when you see total darkness in your life thats when actually its about to rise and shine for you, i always tell myself that and i kip on trying and going on forward nomatter what,., stay motivated & Focus on your goals dont let distractions distract you in a long run that you forget your major purpose in life.

A womans Heart

A womans heart should be close to God that a Man has to chase him to find her. .

Dear women build your relationship with God first and make it strong. .its the only way you will find that Happily ever after relationship with a man who searches for God more than you do and you will both have a loving, happy and peacefull home together. Be blessed

Happy valentines to you all, it is written a Woman will respect her Husband and a Husband will love his wife.

May it be a Truly Happy Valentines day for you. .

Hello everybody. .hope all of you wokeup wealthy & Healthy. .Happy & Gratefull. .& Energetic too. . i would like to say Thank you for those who view, Like and even coment on my site. .Thankyu for those who have followed me. .And Thank you for those who keep following me. .I know today is Valentines day. .We all wokeup in different situations. .But then what i have to say is. .I love you all. .and second you are the best thing that has ever existed in my life. .Like i always wanted to share my feelings and ideas to a certain group of people one day. .make them happy. .motivating them into reaching their dreams and ultimate happiness. .and today i have that group. .Its a special day and am soo happy to be with you here guys. .If you wokeup feeling you have no Valentine. .No one loves or cares about you. .I do😊 and am proud i do thats why i am declaring it here. .if you have a girlfriend or boyfriend that is not proud enough to declare and claim you today just know you are just an option to them and move on. .Love is actions so let them make you feel special. .but if you are single remember you are in a better version of you because all you see is you and selflove is above all kinds of love. .From the inside if u can love yourself and be happy with yourself you won not everybody can do that especially in this world right now that everybody likes and craves attention from people who are not ready to provide if for free. .in life try to be yourself until the true love of your life finds you and thats when he / she teaches you to love you more😌

Anywaays ol in ol. .its an Arsh wednesday too. .To all christian men and women we know what that means so be carefull with your actions and stay blessed

No one is coming to fix it!

We are what we think we are. This may sound simple enough, and it is a lot harder than you think.

All your life you have been programming your mind with how you see yourself and the world around you. A lot of what you are writing in your brain is based on what other people said to you, about you.

The problem starts in childhood; a child will not be able to put everything they hear in proper perspective. When adult caregivers and authority figures in your life are not providing a caring nurturing environment, you will start programming yourmind in a negative way.

You alone are writing the code in your brain; no one can write it for you or change it, not even God. You alone will look at what is presented to you, and you will decide if you want to accept it or reject it.

God has shown Himself to the whole world through creation, and many will decide to reject what they see because they have the free will to choose.

People have asked me ‘how do I stop the bad thoughts, how do I overcome the fear and doubt?’ The answer is simple, but the process is hard to do. You must be transformed by the renewing of your mind. And you must take every thought captive.

You can make a thought stop when you know it does not line up with God’s truth, even thoughyou want to. The reason people struggle with their thoughts and ideas is because they will not change their mind.

I am sure you are saying, “You have no idea how much I don’t want to be like this!” I am sure that you do not want to think like that anymore. The truth is, when you really do not want to do it, you will stop it.

When you know the truth it will set you free, so that means people are trapped by the way they think. Fear is not real outside of your mind; fear is only real in your mind. The fears, doubts and unbelief you have are unique to you alone.

And it is all in your mind, and you have the power to change it. You alone wrote the code in your brain of what you believe and do not believe. The truth is you are not in bondage, stop thinking you are.

As long as you think bad things about yourself, your brain will not allow you to do more than you said you could. When you understand that your brain is feeding back the information youwrote in there, and that you need to change how you see yourself, your life will change.

The devil did not put the bad ideas in your head; you did that all by yourself and your flesh does not want to let it go because it is power. When you allow the bad thoughts to roll around in your mind, you can control the outcome of your fantasy.

Let’s unpack this a little more; you will run the scenarios in your mind of what happened or did not happen that makes you the victim, so you can justify the pain you feel. And you can justify not doing more than what you are doing because someone did something terrible to you, or someone did not do what they should have.

As long as you are not willing to accept what happened you will never be able to move forward in life. Accepting what happened does not make them right, any more than it makes you wrong.

As long as you are not willing to expect it, your brain will keep bringing it up so you can run through it again and hopefully have a better outcome, and it never happens. So every time you allow your brain to rerun the program, you hurt yourself all over again.

Let me jump off topic a little here and let’s look at the difference between you and your brain. You are not your brain, any more than you are your heart or lungs. Your brain is simply a part of your body that feeds back the information that you put there in the first place.

Your brain is a problem-solving machine that will work on a problem until it finds a viable solution or you make a decision and decide that this will be your course of thinking. Now, it is a well-known fact that you can believe things that are simply not true to anyone else in the world.

Whatever you tell your brain is the truth, that is what will be the truth to your brain. Your brain can not tell the difference between truth and false. You alone are the programmer of your brain.

Now, when you have someone tell you the same thing over and over, you will decide to believe that this is the truth and you will take this into your brain. That is how you will see the world, based on what you think.

If you do not guard your mind carefully and watch what and how you think about yourself and others around you, it will be very hard for you to live a productive, fulfilled life; because you will play the role of the victim over and over trying to make it work out in your favor.

You will be consumed with hoping that the person who hurt you will be able to see you and what you are doing. You will be focused on wondering what would they think if they could see you now.

What if they could see how they made you suffer, or could feel your pain? Can they see how you are succeeding in ways they always said you would not be able to? Or maybe you are consumed with the revenge to make them pay for the wrongs they did to you.

No matter what you are consumed with, they have no idea what is going on in your brain. They are off somewhere living their life and dealing with the battles in their own brain that you know nothing about.

When you are playing the scenarios in your mind of what did or did not happen, they have no idea what you are thinking or feeling. When you hold on to this and refuse to let go hoping somehow they will be affected by it, it is like you drinking poison and hoping they get sick from it.

There could be a million reasons why someone did something wrong or did not do what they should have done for you. Now the truth is, what is done is done. You cannot go back and change what happened.

It is essential for you to understand what that person or persons did is because they were broken and empty. They did it out of their brokenness and lack; they did not have anything to give you.

Yes, even the people that abused you in the most horrible ways you can imagine. These people did not have anything in them, they were broken and empty, and all they could do is take from someone else. The worse the abuser, the more empty and broken they are.

I am not saying what they did was right, I am just telling you why they did what they did. Any abuse of another living thing is rooted in the abuser not feeling emotionally whole themselves. No one that feels love and acceptance is going to go out and abuse other people in any way.

If we do not take personal responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions, no matter what others did to us, we will become a prisoner in our minds long after they’ve gone. Everyone will react differently when they do not receive the love and affection they should have in life.

There is so much more that could be said about this that we can not get into without writing a whole book on this subject. So let’s get back to how you can live your life to the fullest after what happened to you.

In the beginning, we said, “ You are what you think you are.” And that is true, you alone have the power in your mind to choose to let go of what happened, or you can decide to keep rerunning the program over and over hoping to somehow change the outcome, or at least make the other person suffer.

As you well know, neither one of them is going to happen, so now it is up to you to change something. And the something you need to change is your mind if you want to live a full and healthy life.

You alone have to make a choice; not even God can come down and change it for you. He has given you the freedom to think in any way you want to, and He will never force you to do otherwise.

The number one thing I needed to get a hold of during my struggle with suicidal depression was that “no one was coming to fix it.” I had to be the one to change my mind; no one could do it for me.

I had to take personal responsibility for my thoughts and actions! I had to put everything in perspective. So let me share some of the processes that I had to go through to get my mind in order.

  • I had to accept that what happened is done
  • , and nothing is going to change it.
  • I had to forgive the people that did wrong to me, no matter how wrong it was.
  • I had to accept that nothing will change if I punish the other person.
  • I had to believe what Godsaid about me, not what they said about me.
  • I had to stop trying to impress them or anyone else.
  • I had to stop thinking about what they think about me and live my life for what Godthinks about me.
  • I had to forcefully take each negative thought and command it to leave.
  • I had to learn to dream
  • I had to believe in myself.

Now, this may sound simple enough, but for those of you that have struggled with depression you know it is not that simple. I am here to tell you I did it and I know that you can do it as well.

The most important thing is to take one thing and take one step. You do not have a deadline to meet. As long as you are willing to take one thing and one step, you can and will win this battle.

When you try to carry the whole load at one time, you will fail every time! You can do it and you will win, remember one thing, one step at a time. You are climbing a mountain one step at a time, you do not jump up mountains.

You alone are the one that can decide what you will think and you alone will decide how you see yourself. No one is in your head telling how you have to see yourself or the world around you.

Now it is time to start changing your mind and change your life.

ONE THING, ONE STEP

I believe in you