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Fear is not my Enemy, Fear is my Friend

I wrote this one day in my diary to help me overcome the fear i was holding in my heart for so long i decided to say this “Fear is not my enemy, Fear is my Friend” it makes me want to read more, become more compitent, gain more knowledge, so that i can conquer everything i fear, fear makes me want to be more strong so that i can win every fight i face in life, Fear is something good to push me foward, its through fear that we suceed. I am willing to go at the edge and hold fear in my hand and passion on the other hand and leap. I stand here in my greatness, i own my greatness, i am bold in my imperfections. I accept my fear, My fear will be in my car but it will not be in my driver seat,. Say this with me, read it out loud and see the fear run out of your chest,”Iam ready for my next season, i know i am the owner of my own biography on one page they will read my fear and the next page they will read how i made it anyway, when i am old enough i will have a story to share but at this age am going to make that story damn good to share”.

Why is Boredom a good thing?

In many ways, the advancement of technology is a positive thing and is enabling people to do more – but is technology, and social media in particular, actually standing in the way of us fulfilling our potential?

In this article you will learn:

  • The impact of using technology and social media
  • Why we need to be bored
  • The importance of disconnecting

While no-one would ever say that technology or social media is a totally bad thing, more and more studies are being done that are starting to reveal the harm that they are causing in society. And with young people the most likely to engage in these activities, there is a possibility that they could have an effect on how successful they are in future. Here’s three ways that social media is impacting young people’s ability to achieve.

1. They are losing the art of conversation

Gone are the days that people picked up the phone to speak to their friends to find out what is going on in their lives. Now we know in real time exactly what our friends are doing, thanks to their Facebook status updates, Instagram stories and tweets. But are young people losing the ability to hold a conversation?

According to one high school English teacher, yes. “My students don’t know how to have a conversation,” Paul Barnwell. He set his students a task that required them to hold a conversation – to record a podcast discussing education issues.

“Even with plenty of practice, the task proved daunting to students,” he says. “I watched trial runs of their podcasts frequently fall silent. Unless the student facilitator asked a question, most kids were unable to converse effectively.”

But, as Barnwell points out, college and job interviews cannot be conducted via a smartphone, negotiations and discussions in the workplace need to be carried out with a thoughtful presence and demonstrating their ability to think on their feet – something that Barnwell’s junior English class (and, arguably, many others of the same generation) would struggle with.

Read: Why we need to switch off to achieve more

2. They are losing the beauty of boredom

Many parents know the dreaded feeling when their child utters those words: “I’m bored.” Handing over the tablet or smartphone for another few minutes peace is the easy option and keeps their child entertained.

But, Dr Vanessa Lapointe thinks that we should allow children to be bored more often. She says: “Children need to sit in their own boredom for the world to become quiet enough that they can hear themselves. It is only when we are surrounded by nothing that something comes alive on the inside.”

She adds: “Children need to sit in the nothingness of boredom in order to arrive at an understanding of who they are.”

Dr Lapointe challenges parents to let their children be bored “and then watch. Watch as your child’s mind becomes quiet. Watch as their internal sense of self takes over. Watch as their sense of being comes bubbling out of them and spills over into this incredible energy to create and do and conquer. And then watch as they grow into confident, capable, driven young people.”

3. They are losing the ability to do deep thinking

Research psychologist Max Blumberg thinks that being constantly connected is reducing young people’s ability to think about things on a deeper level.

He says: “The end result of all this, I think, is that you will become very reactive. You won’t be able to do deep thinking and you won’t see things being built anymore. To build a really cool company, like Virgin for example, Richard Branson needed a lot of deep thinking and a lot of focus, which he couldn’t have got if he had been always connected.”

He adds: “We’re already starting to see that the kids from richer backgrounds are really restricted in the amount of TV and internet that they are allowed to use because their parents who built these big companies know that that is what is required to be able to achieve such things, so those kids are going to end up building the big companies of the future.

“And the kids from poorer backgrounds, who are online all the time and have a very reactive brain, will end up being the consumers and customers of the other kids’ companies. There will be a huge market where people will buy anything because the brand is flashed up without having any critical thinking about it because their brains are not used to deep thinking.”

Sex does not imply True Love. .

SEX
A man can travel for eight hours ‘just to have sex with a female friend and yet, not love her.
Sex makes men act as if they are in love.
The eight hours travel sacrifice, gifts bought, hotel paid for and other expenses may seem to be coming from true love but they were all in the sacrifice for sex and nothing more.
The foolish thing is this, majority of women would jump up inside them and conclude that this is art of true love. Sex is not an art of commitment. Men still leave the women they sleep with on bed and start thinking of the next woman to sleep with. The satisfaction that
comes from sex dies in minutes.
It is in the nature of Lions to go miles to hunt. The same with men. A man who can afford the expenses of flying from UK to Nigeria for sex would do it as if he would never turn to another woman for sex.
Sex drives men to do what seems like the
impossible and such turns women around and they start acting weird. Sex and love are not in the same page even in dictionary.
People can abandon their gold mines and dig the grave for sex. Most young men do terrible things just to have the resources to keep many girls in their life. You may think they are working hard to live well in the future but they are just living for
fun and that is all. Students are now living
together like husbands and wives, and our
society calls it love. What kind of people do these students become when they leave school?
This is why we have a lot of frustrated graduates than nation building graduates.
Today, a 16 year old girl is already into sex. She wants to wear everything on trend. She is already a prostitute in the sense that any man
that comes her way for relationship must show some signs of money and she would respond to him.
The funny thing is this, almost all those girls that have become sex symbols end up in deep mess. How many of them today is changing the world they are into? What kind of spirit would they do well with in life? They have sold their souls out
to sex. They pride on what they wear and hotels they go to. That is their biggest achievement. The girls they called cowards are setting up economic empires. Their future is already exhausted when they come to their true senses?

Advice to my beloved brothers and sisters:
For men; never allow your erection today to destroy your future directions, stay positive.
My sisters, all that glitters is not gold, make your future bright and its start today.

Choose Purpose over Popular

In life eventually every person has his or her purpose for existing, we all know what our hearts desires, our passion, gifts and talents from God and those are the things that determine our purpose, they say there are two great days in a persons life

1. The day we are born 2. The day we find out why??

Most of us are born and very few of us really know why, so we go for the things that will give us fame and become popular in a short time which may not even be our purpose on earth or even Gods plan for you and your life, They say direction is better than speed, ,when you have a direction of where you are going it means you aleady know your purpose and are pursuing it knowing it will lead you in the right way to your destiny, in todays life alot of people dont choose purpose over being popular so they get distorted on they way, they dont reach their destiny and blame God saying that he did not favour them, its time we get to know our purpose first why were we born and put to earth at first, search the inner you, explore what is missing or what is there that you are taking it forgranted, our hearts tell us to do things and we ignore them most of the times and listen to our brains without knowing that as soon as we were born our hearts started beating and feeling things before even our brains starte dfuntioning. . so why should you listen to your brain more than your heart? why should you criticise yourself? why dont we follow our intuitions? i know it may not seem right at the moment, you may feeel like you are going crazy everytym you want to follow your heart like what will my familly think of me? how about my friends and loved ones? so you remain in your comfortzones staying unhappy, you have to know this is your life to live and you will live it only ones,so you might as well fill it with Happiness and greatness or Die together with your dreams and heart desires. .the choice is yours, ask yourself today if you were in your death bed now, you are told you will be dead in two months wht will you do to change the situation you have now? How would you like to leave this world? Are you feeling defeated in your current life? thats how you want to leave or you want to leave as a winner? Die while smilling you lived your life. . The choice is yours now my dears, i believe God will give you the courage to pursue your purpose in life if you let him and you will do it.

Dont know how i feel

Have you ever felt like you need someone to hold you down at the same time you feel like you just want to keep on feeling misereable because you feel at the moment you just want to stay misereable because you need to find yourself and know what you really want, that feeling of nothing is really wrong but nothing feels right either all your feelings are chaos you juc don know what to decide and you juc feel down, you need help but dont need help either so you are just there like a robot feeling all sorts of things and everything just runs through your head and it just doest make sense at ol, you want to do this bt doesnt feel right you want to do that but doesnt feel right so you are juc there stuck and wondering what the outcome will be. .

Its really hard to stay motivated, there are juc days you don know how you feel about anything in your life, you feel stuck and going nowhere you feel ol your efforts are being un appreciated by people or yourself, you feel lost somewhere dark in a room of yourself. .these are the days which i always believe my breaktrough is about to come. .my victory is arround the corner, i can quit and be a looser or fight more and be the winner, its a choice someone has to make a very hard choice, when you feeling like everything is falling apart thats when actually things are getting together in place and everthing you ever wanted is about to come through so dont give up for nothing is permanent in this world even your sorrows, so when you see total darkness in your life thats when actually its about to rise and shine for you, i always tell myself that and i kip on trying and going on forward nomatter what,., stay motivated & Focus on your goals dont let distractions distract you in a long run that you forget your major purpose in life.

A womans Heart

A womans heart should be close to God that a Man has to chase him to find her. .

Dear women build your relationship with God first and make it strong. .its the only way you will find that Happily ever after relationship with a man who searches for God more than you do and you will both have a loving, happy and peacefull home together. Be blessed

Happy valentines to you all, it is written a Woman will respect her Husband and a Husband will love his wife.

May it be a Truly Happy Valentines day for you. .

Hello everybody. .hope all of you wokeup wealthy & Healthy. .Happy & Gratefull. .& Energetic too. . i would like to say Thank you for those who view, Like and even coment on my site. .Thankyu for those who have followed me. .And Thank you for those who keep following me. .I know today is Valentines day. .We all wokeup in different situations. .But then what i have to say is. .I love you all. .and second you are the best thing that has ever existed in my life. .Like i always wanted to share my feelings and ideas to a certain group of people one day. .make them happy. .motivating them into reaching their dreams and ultimate happiness. .and today i have that group. .Its a special day and am soo happy to be with you here guys. .If you wokeup feeling you have no Valentine. .No one loves or cares about you. .I do😊 and am proud i do thats why i am declaring it here. .if you have a girlfriend or boyfriend that is not proud enough to declare and claim you today just know you are just an option to them and move on. .Love is actions so let them make you feel special. .but if you are single remember you are in a better version of you because all you see is you and selflove is above all kinds of love. .From the inside if u can love yourself and be happy with yourself you won not everybody can do that especially in this world right now that everybody likes and craves attention from people who are not ready to provide if for free. .in life try to be yourself until the true love of your life finds you and thats when he / she teaches you to love you more😌

Anywaays ol in ol. .its an Arsh wednesday too. .To all christian men and women we know what that means so be carefull with your actions and stay blessed